The last two years have been… stressful. Challenging. Full of shit, if I’m being honest.
And transcendent. Redemptive. Transformative.
I’ve gone through many challenges in my life – depression, losing my first love to cancer, allergies that refused to succumb to every treatment on the books, to name a few. Still, the last two years of my life rank among the most difficult. In part because, having come through so many challenges, I was supposed to be on the smooth sailing “easy” part of life. Or at least easier. Right? I mean, I got a lot of terrible shit out of the way early, so now it should be my time to thrive, right?
HA! No. So much for cosmic balance sheets…
These past few years have been notable not just for the amount of stressful events I’ve gone through – and there have been many – but also for the relentlessness of all of it. The weight of a chronic illness was always there; a dark cloud hovering over every moment. I constantly felt as if I couldn’t catch my breath. That as soon as I started to get a grip and move forward I’d get knocked back. And believe me, I’m well aware of the fact that it could have been worse, but I don’t aspire to delve into that inky abyss. It was bad enough. And I am so relieved that things are finally settling out. At least for the time being.
I’ve come through it. I’ve gotten to a place where I feel like I can restart my life. And I still hate that “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” BS. Every time someone says that to me I want to shout “Maybe I don’t WANT to be stronger! I’m strong enough, thanks!”
I hope that in these posts you can find something useful – the comfort of seeing some of your experiences in someone else, a sliver of light in the fog, the inspiration to keep going today, or to fight for the care you need and deserve, or just a distraction from your day, and I hope, at least a few good chuckles.